Stop with the excuses and lies.

I have a tendency towards very severe anemia. I don’t absorb iron from food as easily as other people. One of the reasons I’m under doctor’s orders to eat red meat at least once a week is because of this but even with that and taking iron capsules I still have a hard time keeping my levels up. In the past my levels have gone as low as seven. That’s right, seven, a single digit.

One of these reasons is because I used to have insanely heavy periods. I’m talking 8 days with the first 4 days being so heavy I had to wear three pads. One nighttime in the middle, and then two super longs on either end to cover me from my belly button to the upper part of my buttcrack. The kind with wings and those cores that are supposed to draw all moisture to the center. Even then I had to change every hour on the hour or I’d leak. Women who pressured me to change to tampons (which I found insanely painful and left a burning sensation as if they had been soaked in hot sauce) and diva cups couldn’t begin to comprehend the amount of blood.

At 38 I decided I had enough and wanted a hysterectomy. No more periods. No more sudden, massive drops in my iron. I didn’t have nor want kids and with my age, PCOS, and other health issues I’d likely not have healthy kids anyway. I also had come to accept that I’m asexual and didn’t want a husband either.

The first doctor said to me that she would not help me until I “popped out a couple of kids” then walked out slamming the door behind her. The next said, “When you get married your husband will want kids.” I even asked online for help on sites like HealthTap and doctor after doctor told me I HAD to have kids first. Kids I didn’t want nor could take care of. Doctors cared more about me being a broodmare for a husband I didn’t have NOR wanted than my health.

I did eventually get my hysterectomy for those wondering, after I broke down in my endocrinologist’s office and he made a referral which led to another referral to a doctor who specializes in uterine cancer. (They found a growth in my uterus, BTW, and suddenly couldn’t get it out of me fast enough. It wasn’t cancerous but obviously could’ve been.)

I’m not the only woman to have faced this issue and I won’t be the last. Go onto the Reddit Childfree forum or any Childfree group on Facebook and you’ll find hundreds of women who were told by their doctors that they can’t be sterilized unless their husband signs a permission slip. One woman even said her doctor, also a woman, said to her, “When you get divorced your new husband will want a baby.” Yet these same doctors are okay with giving the husbands a vasectomy and some even suggest to not tell the wife.

The reason I’m saying all this is because of this — if there was even a 0.0001% chance that the Covid-19 vaccines could make a woman infertile, only men would be allowed to get it.

So shut up and get vaccinated.